TonyW650 wrote:shes not run off with my mate.
its just the way she has done things.
I feel so let down, why couldnt she just tell me, instead of me having to work it out and one of her friends having to tell me and one of my friends already knowing.
My family think shes great and are totally shocked.
I don't do relationships because of this, I'm one of these people that puts so much in that when this happens its blows me out the water.
oh well!
Don't give up Tony, she's just one bad apple out of hundreds. Sure you could say they can all be funny fcukers at times but she's not normal!
Get out with the lads mate and don't stop looking cos you'll find one that will give you back just as much as you put in fella! You'll find mrs perfect one day but be patient enough to pick the right one before you take her in.
Enjoy a bit of freedom for a bit mate things will sort themselves out trust me :-)
TonyW650 wrote:shes not run off with my mate.
its just the way she has done things.
I feel so let down, why couldnt she just tell me, instead of me having to work it out and one of her friends having to tell me and one of my friends already knowing.
My family think shes great and are totally shocked.
I don't do relationships because of this, I'm one of these people that puts so much in that when this happens its blows me out the water.
oh well!
It is heartbreaking at first but it will get better & make sense to you in time.
Emotions are running very high at the moment, there will come a point when you realise that yes you have been 'kicked in the nuts' big time but the pain will ware off & you will get on with your life.
Having been in a similar situation with a sudden departure it's all very upsetting at the time.
After, in my case, a few months I had revelation moment when I realised that I was making things worse for myself by worrying about it to much. Result I picked myself up & got on with life in a better frame of mind.
I do realise that you have other issues going on at the moment that very much complicate things & that it's very easy for me & others on here to give you advice when not knowing the full picture.
I think that your showing a very brave face even posting on here in the first place.
I'm pretty sure that everyone on this fine forum wishes you the best & hopes that on this issue at least you get some sort of closure.
Chin up Bro...Don't let the b8stard (in this case bitch ) drag YOU down.
Mac
Making up since 2007, sometimes it's true...Honest...
Get an old dog from the rescue Centure as they should be house trained .
Unlike a puppy as you will be bending down all day to clean up the mess .
Or a cat as they don't need taken for a walk . A male cat once they have had their nuts chopped make a very good pet . They don't go far and just want to chill out at home .
chin up tony, if i lived closer i would pop round for a cuppa and a chat, the idea of a dog is a good one, i have a doppy pet dog in spain, he's great, unconditional love and fun, get one that suits you, because of your bad back, maybe not such an active dog would be best, just don't get owning a dog confused with dogging....
And Here the next bit.
Turns out she has done this before, I'm number 3 she's done it to.
Her friends exact words where "she takes people for what she can and then f**ks them over and it don't matter about their feelings" this is one of her friends she wouldn't let me meet, because her friend would have warned me off!
Got this out of the same friend, reckons she saw a weakness in me, that weakness being, my generosity and willingness to help people and my easy going nature she exploited it.
the person that told me all this has found out whats gone on and asked around for my number and made contact.
She has done well out of it, lent her money, sorted her car, gave her somewhere to live for a year.....
As Ive already said she has stuff still here, now I'm not going to be unreasonable and she can have it back, but I want the money back that I lent her.
I have notified the police of the situation, have reference number etc...
They have informed me that I have to make her aware that I want the key back, which I have verbally, she has said no I will give it back when I come to collect my stuff, not happy with that so Having the locks changed tomorrow, she only has a front door key, so what I'm doing at the moment is leaving the key in the front door on the inside, half turning it so you cant put another key in the outside, and I'm using the back door, which I have the only key for, and Ive changed the padlock on the back gate, and I'm using that instead.
The police said send her a letter stating you want the Key back, bit hard when you dont know where she is, so I'm going to send her a text then take the phone down police station so I have proof that its been done.
if she then tries to gain entry with out my permission I'll have her done for breaking and entering! given the reg of her car to all the people in my close and said if this car appears and I'm not here and she tried to get in call the police!
its great init lol, amazing what sort of people are out there, its also scary that these sort of people are out there, what a wonderful thing the human condition is!
I think she has some major issues and needs to see someone about it!
And heres the other bit, my mate took a look on the dating site that I found her on, just because he'd never met her and wanted to see why I was so emotional etc.
and shes back on there looking for another relationship already!
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I think she has some major issues and needs to see someone about it!
I think your right, she's obviously got deeper problems, maybe going back to her childhood or she's been hurt by a man badly. You are probably better off out of it.
It's sad there are people in the world like that, just like these woman that marry men for their status and money. But she has taken a bit of you now because you wont trust another woman so fast next time and put barriers up. We live and learn!
Strange creatures woman, and defiantly don't think or behave the same way as us blokes. Unless they are lesbian.
Good to hear your doing something positive about it.
cybercarl wrote:Jeez what a lunatic. User and abuser, bitch.
I think she has some major issues and needs to see someone about it!
I think your right, she's obviously got deeper problems, maybe going back to her childhood or she's been hurt by a man badly. You are probably better off out of it.
It's sad there are people in the world like that, just like these woman that marry men for their status and money. But she has taken a bit of you now because you wont trust another woman so fast next time and put barriers up. We live and learn!
Strange creatures woman, and defiantly don't think or behave the same way as us blokes. Unless they are lesbian.
Good to hear your doing something positive about it.
(:-})
She was abused by her step dad as kid and her mom turned a blind eye, makes you wonder
something I forgot to add, she moved out 2 weeks ago about the same time she told my best mate we had split but didnt tell me.
And then came back last week, walked in saying she had come to get a few bits, stayed the night we slept together, I asked if everything was ok and she said yep, I asked it we was still together and she said yep, and then she went to her daughters and back to wales to look after her son.
How twisted is that
but from what her friend says she aint in wales and there is possibly nothing wrong with her ex, how devious
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Cute dog Seb 
