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I'm not sure if this will help or not, but we made the funeral service and afterwards a celebration of my Dad's life, it certainly helped.

All the very best for tomorrow Al, you'll be okay,

Chris.

i hope all goes well today and is a Celebration of her life. My dads passing earlier this year has left a massive hole, Its has though brought the Family together more, his Funeral was sombre, his wake amazing as we all felt happy he wasn't suffering had an amazing life and had children he dearly loved. We scattered his ashes in the sea, canoeing etc and the family on the beach watching. We still miss him but are so much happier for knowing him. i hope today goes well and that you can all reflect how great a mom she was.

All the best today Al.
Thoughts are with you and your family.

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Thinking of you and the Family Al.


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Be strong but don't hold it in, don't be afraid to blub.

It's better out than in.

MacV2 wrote:
It's better out than in.

all depends on what you're talking about and where you are really .

Thoughts with you - and echo what Sirch says - hope the sun shines and you can all bask in warm memories etc etc

Funeral was last Thursday so that is one more hurdle cleared...... only have to deal with the will being read and cope with Normal life now.. just got to say thanks for the messages on here and the texts, they all helped.

last few days up in Scotland with my family were good, and although I could sense I was heading into my default introvert behaviour to recover, I know that too much time on your own is also not good so my wife and kids kept me on the straight path.
since her death I have felt a very strange feeling, it was not a sadness and I was never thinking about my mum or past memories or regrets, but I just felt an emptiness and a loss of mental and physical power.. strange stuff grief!......... last couple of days that fog is lifting, but I am sure it will be back.

one thing that my brother, sister and I did laugh about was that my mum invested a huge effort every year to try and arrange family get togethers, and it was a nightmare trying to get it to fit round everybody's schedule........ we agreed that the wake would have been her last laugh as she looked down...... I bet she was saying "see, I told you I would get all you buggers together!"


but that's the last thoughts dwelling on the past, what is needed now is to keep reminding myself to follow through on what she started, and not only make more regular effort to meet up with my brother and sister, but also the other cousins and the surviving older generation.

That was a good read Al.......

Glad you have your head sorted Al, you'll be selling the yellow peril I guess!
You're right to keep in touch with and value all of your family, you don't know how long you've got them.
All the best mate.

Nice post Al, I'm sure your mum would be proud of that,

Chris.

Yeah got to hold the people you love close ,I'm pretty sure that's what life is about ,so that's me wombles then , can't wait to get out with you mate , live and love unreservedly ,ady.

adyf wrote:Yeah got to hold the people you love close ,I'm pretty sure that's what life is about ,so that's me fooked then , can't wait to get out with you mate , live and love unreservedly ,ady.

well said Ady, and that proved correct for you with your surprised meet on the last storm ride.

keep on going through the fog Al dont stop and dont dwell on it, then one day in the not too distant future you will go round a corner
and the sun will be shining.

but that's the last thoughts dwelling on the past, what is needed now is to keep reminding myself to follow through on what she started, and not only make more regular effort to meet up with my brother and sister, but also the other cousins and the surviving older generation.

This is something my family do. My nan used to hold a boxing day party when all the family would meet. We have sort have continued this tradition on with meet ups every so often. We are doing another Blackpool weekend next year which is kinda central for everyone. The Welsh the English and the Scott's. We have a B&B booked and have taken over the whole place LOL One big piss up it will be and the kids can have fun down the fairground. It's so nice to catch up with some family members and I know for sure that this year there will be a couple there that may be the last time I get to see them as they are getting on in life.

Big hugs Al

Sorry to hear of your loss Al

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