Upward and onwards

[Dickiebig]

Hi Guy's,
had a very strange back end to last year. I know that some of you fellas have had experience of cancer, well I now have, indirectly, as my good lady has just finished her chemo and radio. I have to say they are both extremely unpleasant and i hope i never have to go through it myself.
She has finished her treatment and although not officially clear all seems to be moving in the right direction, it has been a quite an experience.
So lets all hope for a safe, healthy and trouble free 2017

ATB Richard

[Kev L]

Best wishes to your good lady wife and yourself Richard. I hope things improve for the both of you in the coming months.

[AMCQ46]

That is a tough road to walk, and from my experience, being the partner is as tough as being the patient as you feel powerless to protect the ones that you love. Glad to hear that the chemo and radio therapy is over, let's pray the follow up tests stay clear.

Stay strong, thee is light at the end of the tunnel

[lloydie]

Glass half full , hopefully the worse is behind you both now and wish you both happiness and good health for the future

[BrianC]

Hey Richard

Hopefully the worst is over.

My mrs had breast cancer over 11 years ago and ed had all thr chemo and radio and the ops etc hut she is still here!!!!

And thats after a melanoma as well

Keep smiling and enjoy every day

Brian

[fabiostar]

chin up Richard and glad to hear you pair are on the right road at least

[bigtwinthing]

Keep fighting it, i am almost 5 years from initially being told it was "Terminal" and fit as a flea now albeit a slightly overweight one . It really hard for the ones to watch you going through the chemo, don't give up, remember what you might lose and chuffin beat it. I can live with having a crap memory and tingly fingers, apart from that i an fine. Good luck will all your results

[TheGingerBeardMan]

I wish your wife all the best. And also well done for you too, as it's never easy living with someone who goes through that. Many folk lean towards saying the sufferer/survivor is brave...well, yes, they are, cos fighting that is not a fun ride. But the families and friends who support them and stick by them through it all also deserve a huge pat on the back (in a non patronizing way!)

I know first hand how shitty things can get, as I too have been personally hit by it - twice. First in late '97. I was with my (then) wife, and she had no empathy for me at all. I could not ''perform'' or ''please'' her due to being ill, and she said ''if I can't get it here, I'll go elsewhere and get it'' - which she did. (she was a pisshead to start with). I ended up in prison afterwards for 9 months due to her (I ended the relationship rather quickly when I had enough of her cr@p, and was hauled away by the armed plod), and it took ages to get a divorce (she refused to sign the papers).

After getting out of HMP bed n' board, I spent 6 months on the streets (homeless), found 4 short term places to stay (one being a Salvation Army Hostel) and then moved to where I am now. A short time after moving to this house, with a new partner (who came over from the States to be with me) in late 2000 / early 2001 it all kicked off again with me getting not well in the big C department. I paid for a holiday for my new partner to go back to the States to visit her family for a month - and she never came back!! She called to say it was too much to handle, and that she was sorry - So, I went through the same thing again: hospital, operations and treatment and home care, all on me Jack Jones.

Anyhoo - Keep up the good work of being the rock that you are. This love and care you show all helps towards your wifes recovery!

Electronic handshakes.

Dave.

[alanfjones1411]

I feel for you both having lost my wife 5 years ago.My new partner also lost her husband 11 years ago to this disease.However on the upside the medical profession are making serious inroads to curing cancer and the survival rate is so much higher than it was even two years ago.Just look at some of the the posts on this thread.I wish you and your partner al the very best wishes for the future.

[BigVeeGrin]

Right, it is an experience Richard. Glad you're through the treatments. Naively, over two years ago when we finished the treatments we thought thats that get on with life, but chemo especially has had some rather longer term effects which we weren't prepared for. Still dealing with the aftermath now, it changes your life really, so keep an eye out for post-chemo/radio odd things!

So lets all hope for a safe, healthy and trouble free 2017

drink to that

[Pete.L]

So lets all hope for a safe, healthy and trouble free 2017

Absolutely!
Don't know how my wife put up with me when I was ill and on Chemo. As a patient you tend to just get on with it, whether it's just being ill or putting up with treatments, but as a partner you get all the shi!t to put up with and are left feeling pretty helpless most of the time. I think the partner has the harder job.
Make the most of the good days and don't forget to take a little time for yourself too. Hopefully , before you know it, there will be more good days than bad
All the best.
Pete

[Dickiebig]

Hi Guy's,
Thank you all for your kind words. It has been very difficult, but we have tended to just bugger on regardless. SWMBO is also a very strong person and the last person to want anyone fussing. She has a medical background, a downside at times as she knows too much, but as long as she kept busy it helped. The chemo really took its toll and the hair loss was a really big thing, however the radio seemed to be more a traumatic experience for her.
We are lucky in the fact that our kids our grown up and that she does not need to work, how on earth anybody works and or tries to look after a family I do not know but people do.
We have been told things are looking good and we await all the inevitable test that hopefully will confirm. As to now it is KBO ( keep buggering on ) and after this last couple of weeks with all the NHS news I can only say that we have had what I consider to be extremely quick, professional and caring service. I for one hope that people will continue to value our NHS.
On the plus she must be feeling better she is looking at holidays.

Cheers everyone, Richard

[BigVeeGrin]

after this last couple of weeks with all the NHS news I can only say that we have had what I consider to be extremely quick, professional and caring service. I for one hope that people will continue to value our NHS.

can't agree more. Much of our ongoing issues stem from the private surgeon who left cancer in and botched the surgery. Going over to the NHS they quickly realised what had happened was wrong and yes you have to wait around, deal with admin difficulties etc but to a person everyone wanted to help because that's what they do and they were just brilliant. It is likely their concern and sticking to the 'rules' saved my wife's life. KBO